I was chatting with a friend yesterday and outta the clear blue here’s the question he posed:
If you were together with someone for a three or four months, would you ask them how much they had in savings? Would you ask them what their financial portfolio looks like?
And if you know me, then you know my answer was:
Hell yeah, that’s a perfectly sound question! It’s one of my top 5!
she aint said nothing but a word
We went on to briefly chat about people failing to ask potential mates about their financial standing and outlook; which got me to thinking.
About two weeks ago I met this dude and he was trying to chat me up HARD! So we’re chopping it up for a minute and as things progress I start to ask him what he does for a living.
Lawdfadagod. This fella had a LIST!
He’s a Taxi driver, he plays in somebodys church band, he runs some supposed videography business ( which I’ve seen some sorta proof but who knows) and he’s part owner in a family business. By the time he finished his list, all I was thinking about was that In Livin Color Skit about the Jamaican family with 50 jobs each and they were always late for work and had to go!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m NEVER opposed to a man/woman having more than one gig to make ends meat, but when you have so many one has to wonder WHY? I mean are you making that little that you need to work like a tourist mule in the Honduran sea side? Whatever happened to that little account marked Savings and why don’t you seem to have any?
I know it may sound bourgeois to some, but his stock fell about a good 250 points due to his plethora of employers. I’m fully aware that some may have an issue with my stance and to that I say, You DATE HIM, if you feel so strongly. I have already dated that guy that had to work two jobs and yet he was still barely making it = BRUKNESS not BROKENESS. I did my part in supporting a brutha through his struggle. I do not like the stench nor the taste of poverty/poordom/pauperly living. My family wasn’t always living this decent, so I KNOW what it’s like to struggle. I just don’t intend on struggling due to someone else’s lackadaisical stance on the meaning of a dollar. Nope. Not me! I don’t mind dating a man with no car BUT you cant have no car, no money, no clue as to what a savings account is/is meant for AND owe money on your VISA bill. I may have fallen stepping on a bus once, but is sure wasn’t the YELLOW bus!
You no longer have to have just a J.O.B if you wana be with me, that was soo 1988. Now one should have GOOD CREDIT (decent credit will not get us very far), a reasonable five year plan of financial feasibility, preferably one job and the list goes on. I’m no gold digger, I have a job (and a pension), I just believe that we must be like minded and realistic when it comes to things like finances.
T.
So, I’m finally going to see the new Batman sometime this week. Yippie!
